It’s Not All Bad – 9 Ways My Life Has Improved As a Transguy
- Like the constant dysphoria. When what’s in your head doesn’t match what’s in the mirror. Every. god. damn. day.
- Then there are legal hurdles & political bullshit
- How about injecting yourself with 3 inch needles every 14 days? It’s been 8 months and I’m finally getting over it.
- Bathroom struggles
- Misgenderings that’ll make your blood boil
- Awkward dating scenarios
- Doctors visits – physicals
(Which all pails in comparison to the fear, threats, and acts of violence that many innocent people in the community are a victim of every single day.)
- Relationships with beautiful humans. I have met the most amazing, beautiful, caring, and humble humans. Yeah, my cis buddies are cool and all, but my trans brothers and sisters have this unique preciousness about them.
- Priceless dialogues. I have had the most honest and meaningful conversations. Going through such a dramatic transformation in your life leads to some pretty intense dialogues. I love every single minute of them.
- Zero fucks given. I used to overthink everything. How are they going to react? What is he going to think? Is this going to be awkward? Am I making the right choice? Now? Fuck it. As a result, I’m also more decisive that I ever thought possible.
- Privilege accepted. I have recognized my privilege and am learning to use it as a platform to help others.
- Life confirmation. For the first time, I feel like I’m in the right place, doing the right thing, and headed in the right direction in life.
- Energy levels. I’ve never been the type of person to sit still or waste time. But now more than ever, I’ve been able to turn that energy into focused efforts and results.
- Rebel with a cause. The passion I’ve found for activist work is something I never thought I had in me. Prior to coming out, I never really had a passion in my life or felt strongly about a cause. Having something to fight for is energizing in itself.
- Being vulnerable. Relationships with my family (and friends, and colleagues) have actually grown stronger. Being able to be my true self around others has allowed them to get to know me on a more meaningful level.
- The handshakes. Man, the bro handshakes are great. And I’m so thrilled to be ditching those awkward hugs. Here’s a PSA for all of you: end the gender stereotype; awkward hugs are bad for everyone.
So, allies: we absolutely need your support. We need you to stand behind us to help amplify our voices in order to end the violence and inequality. But don’t think of us as weak or unfortunate. We’re people, just like you; just over here trying to live our authentic lives. And we’re damn proud of it.